What are effective ways to connect with my toddler during daily routines?

Slow down, make eye contact, and turn small moments into shared ones.

Connection doesn’t need extra time—it just needs intention.

Your toddler doesn’t need more activities. They need more of you in the moments you already share.

Daily routines are full of tiny opportunities for connection—if we’re willing to notice them. Whether it’s getting dressed, brushing teeth, or riding in the car, the secret isn’t doing more. It’s being more present in what you’re already doing.

Here’s how to connect with your toddler during everyday moments:

• Narrate and include.

  “Let’s get your socks. One… two!” Talk through tasks as if you’re doing them together—even when you’re in a rush.

• Offer playful choices.

  “Blue shirt or yellow shirt?” Giving small choices invites cooperation and shared control.

• Use touch to connect.

  A gentle back rub while brushing teeth or holding hands while walking says, “I’m with you.”

• Make eye contact and smile.

  Even three seconds of face-to-face warmth builds emotional safety and trust.

• Sing your way through it.

  Make up silly songs during diaper changes or snack prep. Toddlers light up when routines feel fun.

• Put your phone away (when you can).

  Just one fully present minute during a routine matters more than 10 distracted ones.

• Pause to notice the moment.

  A whispered, “I love doing this with you” during bathtime might be the most connecting part of your toddler’s day.

Connection isn’t one more thing to add—it’s the way you do everything.

Daily routines become meaningful when you bring your presence with you.